Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life Paperback Audible Audiobook Kindle Hardcover Audio CD

WHAT OTHERS ARE SAYING

“I’ve been recommending Boundaries to friends, team members and radio listeners for more than twenty years.”

—Dave Ramsey, bestselling author and nationally syndicated radio show host

“This life-changing book is still the go-to guide for healthy relationships, personal growth, and true freedom in Christ.”

—Andy Stanley, pastor, author, communicator, and Founder of North Point Ministries

“Of every book that I’ve read, Boundaries is the one I recommend most often.”

—Craig Groeschel, pastor of Life.Church and New York Times bestselling author

WHAT CAN I EXPECT TO LEARN FROM THIS BOOK?

Boundary Setting Is a Large Part of Maturing

We can’t really love until we have boundaries—otherwise we love out of compliance or guilt. And we can’t really be productive at work without boundaries; otherwise we’re so busy following others’ agendas that we’re double-minded and unstable (James 1:8). The goal is to have a character structure that has boundaries and that can set limits on self and others at the appropriate times.

Boundaries Define Us

They define what is me and what is not me. A boundary shows me where I end and someone else begins, leading me to a sense of ownership.

Knowing what I am to own and take responsibility for gives me freedom. If I know where my yard begins and ends, I am free to do with it what I like. Taking responsibility for my life opens up many different options. However, if I do not “own” my life, my choices and options become very limited.

The Law of Power

To see another person as the problem to be fixed is to give that person power over you and your well-being. Because you cannot change another person, you are out of control. The real problem lies in how you are relating to the problem person. You are the one in pain, and only you have the power to fix it.

Many people have found immense relief in the thought that they have no control over another person and that they must focus on changing their reactions to that person.